Hi, I’m a 19 year old Lass. I met a guy back in august 08. We were really good together, spent a lot of time together, and got really close. 2 months after this, we had sex for the first time, it was so good. But he just wants to be friend now. It has already been 5 months now. Every time we’re in the company of one another we can’t keep away from each other. I think about him all the time, I think I love him, but he says all he wants is fun; he’s not ready for a relationship. I’m crazy about him and don’t think I can handle just sex, but I couldn’t handle seeing him with anyone else I like him too much. I’m so lost. I don’t know what to do. Can anyone give me some advice? I don’t want to give up on him he means too much to me.
- Lass.

# Dear Lass, I hope he doesn’t become a stranger again after 2nd sex. (Do you know what I mean?) Anyhow, let’s come back to the analytical view of your friendship. Love itself is friendship. A stronger friendship with much more dedication, sacrifice, trusts n faithfulness. You guys seem to enjoy each others company, love being together. That’s really nice. But I think this is your opinion, your thoughts. How about his? Does he feel the same way as you do? Does he too really care for you?

Keep up your friendship with him. Slightly and slowly give him ‘pinches n punches’ of Love so that he is aware of the fact that you really love him for real, not just for fun. Furthermore, when he said he’s not ready for a relationship. May be he meant it. He might not really be ready. As for fun, who doesn’t like fun! Try to impress him day by day and Let him too feel the love for you. Please refer to earlier teen problems on How to attract boys. On your part, you can be/ try to be the best fun to him. You can be the happiest thing for him. And the bottom line is- If he really loves you truly, he will never want to hurt you. He’ll never abandon you and he’ll do anything to you for your happiness.

-- Dr. teen.

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